There's a lot of advice out there on how to raise a healthy emotional child but maybe not everyone does it or as consistent as it can be done. I see that there are 2 main things that are needed to raise a healthy emotional child.
1: Say "NO". As a parent, we do not want our children to cry, be upset, feel down, or anything negative but that is not going to help them grow up emotionally healthy if you as the parent, keep taking care of their emotions for them or giving into what they want. It's okay to say NO to your child. It is also important for them to hear the word "NO" because when they are out of your home, they will not get what they want. They will have to accept that they may not always get what they want and they will still be okay.
2. Validate their emotions, even if they are angry with ... YOU! When we tell our child that it is okay to be upset, mad, sad, happy or whatever the motions and accept what they are feeling, that helps them to become emotionally stronger too. The feelings they experience are their own feelings. They may be different than yours, which is totally fine because they are not you, they are who they are going to be. It's your job as a parent, to help them understand their feelings and believe that they can work through their feelings.
There are a lot of other ways to raise a child to be emotionally healthy but these are two of importance.
A resource that is helpful is by John Gottman, Emotion Coaching. The website is http://www.gottman.com/.
