Well, I thought I had lost this blog that I have not done a whole lot with since November 2011! OOPS!!
I was thinking of creating another blog, but I stumbled on this one. Now, I will remember where I found it and will be more consistent with it.
My husband and I saw Hope Springs last night with Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones and of course Steve Carrell. It was very funny!! Tommy places great as a grumpy old man and Steve does a great job as being a therapist and Meryl is awesome as always.
I won't go into total details but it is about their marriage, the season/stage of marriage they are in and how they work through it.
Marriage takes work. It's like a plant: seed, plant, feed, water, fertilize, nurture it, give it sunlight, shade, trim, pluck, pull weeds etc. When you nurture your marriage, it will grow.
We get "stuck" at times, nothing looks fresh, a lot of weeds, dry ground and the marriage/plant just stays there. Stuck.
How to re nurture your marriage?
REVISIT/REMEMBER: how you both fell for each other, what he/she wore, first date, first kiss, first sexual encounter, how did you feel, what did you do to pursue the other, remember the experiences that you have built into the marriage and how it all started
RESTORE: healing, where the marriage once was, rekindle the fire for the other person. When you remember the things that made your spouse happy, excited, loved, the feelings will come back. It can take awhile but the feelings can return.
RENEW: your commitment to each other, forgive, nurture your marriage daily, weekly, monthly so that you don't get "stuck" again.
Change happens, people change but hopefully in marriage, each person grows together. When it does not happen, that does not mean that change can not take place, may just take longer.
So, if you want a great marriage, pull the weeds, replant together, nurture it and watch out for the weeds again.
